I tend to use gender neutral pronouns when referring to most people because if the pronoun actually means something it's so easy to mix it up and be offensive. I mean I've referred to you as 'she' by accident a few times because I was just searching for a pronoun and wasn't really thinking about gender. Sometimes I just want to get what I'm trying to say out rather than wait for some other part of my head to decide what oddity of the language I have to apply now...

I do use gendered pronouns in speech and writing because it's how the language works but I get them wrong all the time... It's just odd having your thought process totally derailed because you can't remember what gender the person you're referring to is supposed to be. ::shrug:: I suppose there's more important things to remember about a person.