Lots of thought-provoking stuff!

But it's the intersection of all those sets that's frustratingly small.

My Evil Ex used to call this "the whole orange". It was a large part of why I fell in love with her. She was like an oasis in the desert, at least until the Evil part kicked in.

Lots of other thoughts about the community aspect of "finding your people". Must catch up with you sometime soon when more awake :-)